Secrecy . . .

This past week our group studied the spiritual discipline of secrecy. Author Coach D says, “the discipline of secrecy is abstaining from taking credit for the good deeds we do. When we practice secrecy, we arrange to do good things in such a way that others can’t even find out who did them.” He goes on to say that like other disciplines secrecy really calls us to explore and focus on our relationship with God through the light of total dependency.

I found myself even today as I write these comments asking some hard questions about “Whom I seek affirmation or recognition from?” There are times over the years I have stayed late after church or event to talk with people and I think I wanted the pastor or leader to take notices. One of the hardest parts of practicing the discipline of secrecy is to examine our motivations. Coach reminds his readers, “It is our motivation that makes the deed either praiseworthy or hypocritical.” Paul takes about this in Philippians 2:3-4, “Do nothing our of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interest, but also to the interests of others.”

After reading the chapter and Philippians I am left thinking about my own personal motivates and propose this question to us all, have you checked your motivations this week? And what will you do to being practicing secrecy this week?

Thoughts on Resting

After reading this week’s chapter I was left pondering the “Protestant Work Ethic.” Especially growing up in America where the mindset of laziness and being a couch potato is bad. We are told that we must be doing something, anything. Busyness is lifted up as the best life; today parents’ status is linked with that amount of activities their kids are in. We have become a culture of workaholics.

The church has not escape this vain of workaholic-ism, the “Protestant Work Ethic” calls some churches to provide activities every night of the week, all day Saturday and Sunday. The Church can add to the busyness of life, but it can also offer rest. Coach D says in the discipline of rest “God restores the body, mind, and soul – all three of which are interrelated.”

Rest is holistic and as we enter into times of rest we are able to affect our whole being. Getting a good night’s sleep not only helps us physically, but emotionally. We wake up in a better mode with restored energy, and spiritual life is also impacted.

Do you need a rest?

February 5

While reading today for my small group, I looked at the spiritual discipline of simplicity. I find myself thinking about a wood carving my boss has in her kitchen, it is just the word simplicity carved out of cherry wood. In a cultural that has some many choices and options has simplicity been replaced never to be heard from again? According to Wikipedia simplicity, “is the property, condition or quality of being simple or un-combined. It often denotes beauty, purity or clarity. Simple things are usually easier to explain and understand than complicated ones. Simplicity can mean freedom from hardship, effort or confusion.” Sounds like a lifestyle I wish and want to live, but wikipedia’s definition appears to be lacking something. Keith Drury says simplicity is “intentionally paring down our lifestyle toward the essentials to free ourselves from the tyranny of things and focus more on spiritual life.” Simplicity is still alive and is calling all Christians to a lifestyle that allows one to focus on God and less on the material.

That’s a life I want to have and one I seek.

Solitude . . .

Being an introvert you would think solitude would be the easiest spiritual discipline for myself. But your wrong, being an introvert or extrovert really has nothing to do with solitude. True an introvert may find it easier to sit alone quietly process through the days events at dinner or read a book and ponder the deeper meaning of the text. Solitude has those elements, but it has much more and requires much more. According to Coach D “solitude is abstaining from people contact in order to be alone with God and get closer to Him. It is fasting from social contact in order to remove others form the God/me equation.”

Solitude is not just about getting alone; it is about moving closer to God and refocusing all our relationship with God being number one. Drury says, “Solitude reminds us of the order we should maintain in our relationships – God first, others second. A Christian who does not practice solitude is likely to be over reliant on friends and under reliant on God. Solitude corrects this imbalance.” Solitude may call us to leave all other relationships and focus on God, but it is for the encouragement of the community. When solitude is build in regularly in to one’s life, they return to community with new passion and focus that allows them to invest into the community.

Have to being getting alone to process your own thoughts or have you really entered solitude?

What has your experience of solitude thought you about yourself, God and the community?

When is your next time of solitude?

Silence . . .

Each week the connection group I am apart of studies a different spiritual discipline, this past week we focused our hearts and minds around understanding silence. Here is a post I wrote for our connection group's blog page.

According to Coach D, “Silence is abstaining from sound in order to open our spiritual ears and listen more closely to the voice of God. God seldom speaks loudly. He usually speaks in a ‘still small voice,’ often little more than an impression in our minds (see 1 Kings 19:12 KJV).”

The start of this week was exciting and different than most, I attended our annual spring Community Life Retreat. It was a time of focused growth in the areas of character and leadership. One of the best part of the retreat was not having a television, radio, and computer. As I reflected outside in nature on the retreat grounds, I thought about all the times I walk in to my apartment and turn on the television just for the noise or the amount of time I spend on my computer checking emails and blogs. I am not saying all this modern things evil or bad, but if they become the driving focus of our lives can we truly hear the voice of God?

Coach calls us to, "learn to displace those noisy thoughts by concentrating on one thing, perhaps a Scripture passage or a scene from the Bible." I read these words and my heart is moved to listen and sit in silence in order to open our lives up to God's heart to replace all the noise of one's life. The next time you sit down on the couch and start to turn on the television ask yourself the following questions:

How many hours each day is the television on?

When you are out to dinner or coffee, how time do you spend listening to your companions?

How has the past week led to a deeper dependence on God through your experience of Silence?

Set Apart: International Wesleyan Youth Convention

From December 28th through the 31st about 500+ students and youth leaders/pastors spent time in prayer at Set Apart Youth Convention. I had the opportunity to lend a hand to my good friends Jeremy, Andrea and Justin in the Prayer Room. The Prayer Room was setup with nine different stations, each one designed to help individuals or groups connect with God through experiential prayers. Each station provided people different ways of engaging in the presence of God, like the above definition of prayer there are more than just one style or method of prayer. Prayer is much larger and grander than simply kneeing at an altar with my hands folded and eyes closed. This prayer room came from a deeper understanding of prayer: to intercede with or make petition to God, conversation with God – in praise, thanksgiving, or intercession. Prayer is about the whole body, mind, soul, and strengthen of a person coming into the presence of God.

I want to focus on one of those nine stations, station two or “Reflecting.” It was designed to help people reflect on themselves from two different angles. First, how they see themselves and second on how God sees them. People are given a guide to assist them through the different prayer stations. The following is taken from the guide:

“Study yourself in the mirror for a moment. Ask God to help you see past the everyday things you notice about yourself, whether good or bad. Ask God to help you look deeper, until you catch a glimpse of the child of God that you already are, His purposeful creation. What do you look like when you can see yourself the way God sees you?”

Each day I wakeup and walk into my bathroom look into the mirror and think about how God sees me and how I see myself. I think about what God sees in me, things that I don’t see or don’t even know. Through prayer I gain new hope of what will be and what is unseen in the here and now.

What Community is Not?

My mind wonders a lot and I often find myself thinking what community is not and asking why are people not in community? John 4:4-30 tells us about a woman seeking community, love, and a shared life but all she found was pain and brokenness. Until Jesus comes! (Please READ JOHN 4:4-30)

Wikipedia says: “community usually refers to a group of people who interact and share certain things as a group, this article focuses on human communities, in which intent, belief, resources, preferences, needs, risks and a number of other conditions may be present and common, affecting the identity of the participants and their degree of adhesion.” I believe Wikipedia is on the right path, “Community affects the identity of the participants.”

However, it is lacking something, something deeper; take Debbie “a single woman in her late twenties. She has great leadership gifts and a promising career. Her commitment to her job has made her a rising star in her company. Senior management is beginning to notice her. However, working six days a week has also kept her from having a life outside of work. For the most part, Debbie does not get out much. There is just too much to do. When she is not working, she renovating her loft. Her parents are worried about her. The girl who once had several inseparable friends has drifted away from those relationships. “That’s the price of working for a Fortune 500 company,” she tells them. Besides, she is with people all the time. At work, at her gym, and at her church, people are everywhere. People surround Debbie. True, she does not really know any of them and they do not know her. This was fine, until recently. Doing life alone is taking its toll. Debbie is beginning to feel alone, even in crowds.” What is Debbie seeking? I believe it is authentic community, really focused on and around Jesus Christ.

Do you find yourself seeking authentic community?

What do you think authentic community is?